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Many toddlers who have younger siblings experience a least a little bit of jealousy, better known as "sibling rivalry". I have noticed, this occurs most often in children under the age of three years but can still appear in older children. Of course, most of my experience is dealing with children ages five and younger; however, I my two oldest boys were born only two years and three months apart so I've definitely dealt with my fair share. Also, I've noticed that it occurs more often between boys and girls rather than same sex, but it does happen between same sex siblings as well.
There is a lot of excitement and anticipation in the family when a new baby is expected, and even more when the baby arrives. Young kids can sense the adults’ excitement, and know something big is coming. There may be changes in the child’s routine too, perhaps moving to a toddler bed instead of a crib, changing rooms and lots of talk about what’s to come. Changes to routine and excitement can cause anxiety. Anxiety shows itself in many ways. Here are some possible signs of anxiety from changes: - sleeplessness
- moodiness
- anger
- extra demands for attention
- clinginess
- regressive behavior such as bathroom accidents or baby talk
What can a parent do to ease anxiety? First, help the toddler express his feelings with words. Ask him if he has worries about the new baby that he’d like to talk about. Discuss feelings that he may be having, and give him attention. There are many good books that parents can read with their toddler that will help put these feelings into words. Being able to express the feelings and know that they are okay to have can help a toddler cope with them and move on. When the words take over, often the behaviors will stop or lessen in intensity. Get a sitter for a day and plan a special outing or activity for just you and your toddler Allow your toddler to be your helper - if they show some interest
Even though your toddler loves their new sibling, he or she may resent this little "invader" who has taken over their role in the household as the baby. Talk with your toddler about his/her feelings concerning this and let them know that it's okay to feel sad or angry or disappointed but it's never okay to hurt the baby because of these feelings. Show your toddler lots of praise when he/she exhibits positive interaction toward the baby. As Dr. Phil says, "It takes 1000 'attaboys' to erase one negative comment to a child. Try to make the most of the time you have with both children and just know that this will pass. As children who are close in age get older, many times they become the best of friends. My sister and I are eighteen months apart and are pretty much inseparable. |
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